So I spent the weekend with my dad and was making my way back home so that I could get to work the following morning. I had a craving for something in particular and was not sure what I wanted to eat. After making my way around in the square, I decided that a small strawberry milkshake and a large serving of fries would stave off the craving demon and motivate me to get up at 5 a.m.
I went into the store and stood in line, as i’m waiting for my turn this man comes out of nowhere and walks right up to the cashier and asks her for something. Now, I am the kind of individual who does not believe in skipping the line and will happily wait my turn so of course I gave him the almighty side eye. He then turns to me as if he is doing me a favor and says, “go ahead, it’s your turn.” I place my order and proceed down the counter to wait patiently, having forgotten this man, or so I thought.
A couple minutes into my waiting for fresh fries ( yummy!), I hear a voice to my right say, ” excuse me miss, may I have a minute?” . I’m polite to a fault and always try to accommodate others as much as possible so I walk down the counter to him and smile while I say, ” yes? How can I help you?”
The man proceeds to tell me that he saw my natural hair which he likes very much and continued to let me know that he owns a barber shop that specializes in cutting women’s hair and eyebrows and asked if i was interested and he would show me the pictures of his shop on his phone. I told him that I had cut it once before and I was growing it out but it was nice to know that he had his own business…. and there was his opening.
I was subsequently caught up in a long rant about how men should approach women and what it is that they need to use as their opening lines etc. I am still nodding and smiling at this point as my mind tries to find the most appropriate and non-combative way of telling this man to get the hell out of my face. I gather my food as he asks if he can talk to me a bit more and I kindly inform him that I am taking my food to go. THis man takes up the other bag that I am travelling and proceeds to take a seat. That should have clued me into the craziness that was about to rain down on me. I take a seat opposite him and he then decides that that is not enough and moves beside me. Using all the SAT words he learnt, he pummeled me with conversation while I smiled and nodded and consumed my snack. I found it funny that he was even mispronouncing and making words up but then had he gall to ask me if I had completed tertiary education because he didn’t want the words to be going over my head. I decided that the only way out was to exchange numbers so I did and let him know that I was ready to leave. He knew my first name but insisted on referring to me as baby. ANYONE who knows me knows that I ABHOR that endearment. But i grinned and bore it thinking that this would be the end of it.
I finally made it home to a text message asking if he could call me to which I made no response. Fast forward to me returning home from training this morning to find that he had whatsapped me sending me no less than 10 messages which began with ” morning hun”. No dude, you are moving way too fast and as I explained to you last night, I am not in the market for a relationship but I was giving him the benefit of the doubt. I immediately blocked him on whatsapp and sent a lengthy text message to explain that I was not of the same mind set and I apologised if he was given the wrong impression but this for sure was not for me.
I leave the phone to go shower. I hear the phone ring and a sudden dread washes over me. I let it ring to voicemail and then when I get out, sure enough….. Now this is starting to get me angry . then a text message comes in, ” so you’re ignoring me now….”
I think I saw red, so I messaged him and told him that I wasn’t but based on what I had said before I didn’t think I needed to say anything else.
These were his words to follow:
“and it’s an insult to block me off your whatsapp but thats alright! I can not believe you would be this mean to me? You seems so nice but you can never just deal with the superficial and know people?
But its all good! Its life and the people we rejected are just the perfect ones’s for us but time is a master for all things, and you may just take down your guard the wrong time and the wrong day ; to the wrong guy!!! But one day you’ll see what am talking about??!!!!!:(:]y3-/8-/:>>:/.”
To which I replied:
” I am a wonderful person. Which is why I took the time to explain how I felt to you. WhatsApp is something that I do not use with any and every one hence my decision. You know nothing about me so do not presume to judge me. Just because I decided like I said last night that I wasn’t interested and I have concretized that fact does not mean that you get to sit and criticize me. I know what is best for me and when that right time is and it just isn’t it. Accept it and don’t make this more than it is. Good day Sir!”
Now you tell me, was I being harsh? I mean this guy sat and had a conversation with me for maybe 20 minutes or rather he sat and spoke to me for that time because I didn’t get much in and he is behaving like I strung him along for weeks or months and then decided to call it quits. I mean I take full responsibility for giving him my number but good God o grace the man was already talking like we were in a relationship. He was even chastising me for my snack saying that I was going to put on weight and he liked me the size I was at so that would be something that we would argue about. Like what???!
This….. this right here is why I am single! UNBELIEVABLE? BELIEVE IT!!